Representing divorce clients for almost a decade has taught me that people respond to stress and difficult
times in very different ways. Previously, I have warned against spending
more money than is economically practical litigating over material things.
Please do not confuse being economical with being an Ostrich.
When confronted by a predator an ostrich will bury its’ head in the
sand. Ostriches avoid conflict, avoid reality and, worst of all, avoid
fighting for themselves and what is right. I have seen too many clients
that come in to meet with me when it is almost too late. They have been
ostriches when they could have been preparing to defend themselves, protect
their assets and protect their children.
I would never encourage someone to give up on their marriage. What I do
encourage is being prepared when things start to go bad. Know your finances,
know your children’s teachers, coaches and friends. Be active in
your life!
Active clients meet with me and know their assets and debts. They are involved
in their children’s lives. Most importantly, their knowledge of
their situation allows us to decide what to fight for and aggressively
pursue the results they want.
It is amazing the difference we can achieve when we dictate the fight.
A lawyer once told me that he does not deal in reality, he deals in perception.
By being prepared we can control the perception and, hopefully, control
and win the fight!
Contact Bluestein Johnson & Burke today to
get started on your divorce or child custody case.